I don’t know that my story is much different than most who get into sex work in the United States. One set of events happened, which led to another, and another, where I eventually found myself in a position needing money, quickly.
Isn’t that how it always happens?
A few months prior, I was finally able to get out of an abusive marriage and was free for the first time in over 10 years. I had some experience of a sexual nature before my marriage, but not much. Having been controlled down to the point of who I could spend time with (friend wise), I was ready to spread my wings and fly.
For the first year, I was maintaining the bills on my former home plus where I moved during the separation. Paying everything for two households is taxing on a good day. Coupled with taking care of my children completely on my own, I was seriously strapped.
During a foray into the world of Craigslist, I happened upon an ad for a gentleman looking for a lady to visit on a weekly basis. In return, he wanted to help pay her bills.
I was naive, but not so much I couldn’t read between the lines of the advertisement. On a whim, I replied.
Gary was a middle-aged man, married with kids. I expected someone older, considering his request, but found out through time, most of the gentlemen requesting escorts were in their early 30’s-mid 40’s. Obviously there are outliers on either side, but this was my experience.
Unlike what most people believe, he wasn’t searching for an escort because he was unhappy at home. Quite the opposite. He and his wife had been married about 15 years and had a great sex life. But he was interested in BDSM and his wife was not.
His requirements were simple. He wanted to be able to engage in bondage rope play until he was ready to explode. There was no desire on his part to have sex with someone other than his wife. He just wanted to explore rope bondage with someone interested and go home to his wife.