Why Is It so Difficult to Say What We Need?
Our conditioning is getting in the way of our fulfillment.
Relationships take work. When done properly, we never stop dating our significant other, even years after the actual dating is over.
It’s easy to become complacent and comfortable when you’ve been with someone for a long time.
We’ve all heard the term, the seven-year itch, often remarked upon when a relationship hits a lull or low point. Is it a real thing?
Yes. But it can be avoided.
Communication with your partner is the key to avoiding the issues that lead to that dreaded itch. But society has conditioned us, as women especially, not to make our partners uncomfortable.
When we desire something different, new, or exciting in our relationship, oftentimes, we bite our tongue and keep it to ourselves.
We’ve been conditioned not to speak up, for fear of hurting our partner’s feelings, or making them feel they aren’t meeting our needs.
But wouldn’t it be better for everyone involved if we talked about what our needs actually are so they can consistently be met?
When it comes to sexual pleasure, women are taught their needs are secondary. Sex isn’t something we discuss openly and freely. It’s considered a dirty, taboo topic. Sex is for procreation, not recreation.
Wrong.
The more we openly discuss sexuality in terms of pleasure, the more we can talk about getting the pleasure we desire.
When we’re sexually satisfied, we’re happier in every part of our lives.
So, how do we get there?