Some people may not think of anal sex and romantic things going hand in hand, but here at Discourse with Demeter, I totally see them being two peas in a pod. Why not? The days of anal being taboo and dirty are long past, unless that’s how you want to see it because it turns you on to do so.
Hey, I don’t judge.
I’ll admit, there are times when Damian and I have role played and depending on the mood that day, whomever is getting anal that day may want to behave as if they don’t “really want it” (consensual non-consent) or, “It’s so naughty, are you sure this is okay?” or something along those lines. We enjoy playing along those lines at times, it’s fun for us.
But there are other times when romance definitely comes into play, when we’re making love, things get hot and heavy, and yes, I want anal.
What’s National Romance Awareness Month?
Shouldn’t we be aware of romance every month, especially if we’re in a relationship? Don’t we already have a holiday for this in Valentine’s Day? Well sure, and I try to celebrate my partners pretty regularly. But hey, I also think there’s never a bad reason to celebrate those we love and let’s face it, in this busy world I think we could all use a little reminder to ramp up the romance in our relationships, whether we have one partner or multiples.
When was the last time you were romantic with your partner? Not just sexually. Sure, it may lead to that. But let’s talk about leading up to it.
Consider reading a steamy romance novel together. Steam Box has fantastic boxes featuring romance novels by authors of color and the LGBTQ community, traditionally not represented in the publishing community. You can choose just the books, or add even more goodies, including vibes, and other excellent treats. Right now, save 30 percent on all orders over $50.
Porn can be romantic too, especially if you choose the right type. Erika Lust Studios has so many titles to choose from. Interested in watching a sexy flick about pegging? Try I Pegged My Boyfriend on XConfessions. You can get a subscription for less than a couple of cups of coffee.
Watching great porn together can not only be sexy, you can learn a lot about what one another is intrigued about trying. And yes, it can be romantic. If XConfessions seems a little too much to start with, Erika’s Else Cinema is a little more softcore, and really feels like watching artistic films. Give it a try, I don’t think you’ll be disappointed. They even have erotic audio like this one, Good Friends, Good Partners.
What about Anal Sex?
I’ve written a number of articles about anal sex, but for this month, let’s go back to some basics.
Anal Sex Advice Is Personal But There Are Some Great Basics We Can All Use
The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Play For Beginners and Experts Alike
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