It’s New Year’s Eve, do you have your resolutions prepared? Do you set resolutions for yourself? It’s okay if you don’t. Being honest, there’s nothing that says you have to do that on a certain day of the year. If you’re resolved to change something about yourself or your life, you can do that at any time.
I’ve found for myself, it’s often easier to make a plan on a kind of schedule. I’m going to start eating this way beginning Monday. I’m going to add 15 minutes of walking to my day every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Something like that. So if that sounds like you, beginning a new routine in the new year might make sense, too.
In my last letter, I mentioned as a relationship and intimacy coach, I’m now offering 30 and 60 minute calls for $50 and $100, respectively. There are a number of ways we can set these up and we’ll discuss that further once you reply. This is not something exclusive to paid newsletter members, anyone can set up a session. Please note, if you’re attending as a couple, the pricing is a bit different and we will need to set up your session as a video call.
So, what will happen during these calls? What will you get out of it? What can we talk about? What do I have to offer?
Have you ever been to therapy? It’s not exactly like that, but it can be similar. I am not a licensed therapist. Yes, I do have a degree in psychology and I am a certified relationship coach, but I am not a therapist or a social worker. I have a ton of life experience, I’m sex positive, kink and fetish positive, and I’m a great listener. And, I’ve been there. I’ve been in relationships that failed. I’ve been in relationships where there was no communication, poor communication, and zero comprehension.
Thankfully, I’ve learned from every bit of that. I worked hard to learn how to communicate effectively, how to listen to my partner, how to make myself understood, how to be vulnerable, and how to be in a healthy relationship. I’ve learned when I should stay and when it’s time to walk away.
When first begin contact via email, I want you to tell me what you expect from our sessions, which will help me come up with a plan. You’re welcome to ask me questions, of course. We’ll discuss boundaries, yours and mine. You’ll be doing most of the talking, it’s your session! Yes, I’m here to give advice, but mostly, I’m here to listen. Where this differs somewhat from a traditional therapy session is, I will give advice, if you want it. But I won’t tell you what to do exactly or how to live your life. I will give you the tools to make your own decisions.
No, I won’t tell you oh wow you should leave your spouse, or you should tell them this that or the other. That’s not my place.
Depending on what we’re working on, I may send you worksheets, links to surveys to fill out, etc. Obviously this isn’t mandatory, but it’s all helpful for you and for me to get the most out of your sessions.
If this sounds like something you think will help you, your relationships, and your life, I would love to hear from you. I’m currently booking sessions for January now.
Wishing you all a happy, healthy, and prosperous New Year.
xoxo, Demeter