The Top 3 Reasons I Returned to Sex Work
The desire to be free is more important than you’d think.
The term ‘sex work’ is an umbrella statement. It can mean anything from escorting, to cam work, to being an employee at a professional dungeon; and everything in between.
For myself, sex work has always meant doing something related to sex or sexuality that earns money. For that matter, being a sex writer and educator qualifies.
Throughout the years, I’ve worn many hats in the sex industry and I pull from that experience to craft my stories today. I won’t lie to you and say any of it was easy or wasn’t hard work, because it all is in some shape or form. There have been times I was in danger.
But more often than not, it’s the most fulfilling and freeing work I’ve ever done.
Unfortunately, that feeling of freedom doesn’t translate to my whole life. Being a sex worker typically means you must hide your profession from those you’re closest to.
It’s not about being ashamed of what you do, it’s about the shame assigned to you by society and even your friends and family. Society doesn’t subscribe to lifting up women, especially, who take control of their own lives.
Oftentimes, the same people who would disparage you for choosing sex work are the same ones screaming from the rooftops about transgressions, real and imagined, happening to sex workers around the world.
I guess it’s different when it’s in your own backyard.
Here are the top three reasons I went back to sex work:
1. The ability to be anonymous, or not
I was a Professional Dominatrix for years. Sadly, my biggest worry during that time was being outed to certain people in my every day life.